What can hurt us more than the death of a loved one? We unconsciously attempt to protect ourselves from being overwhelmed by intense feelings of heartache. So an initial bereavement creates a sense of numbness and shock. However, sadness, anger, guilt, and/or depression may come soon. Grieving is a process and it is not humanly … Continue reading Bereavement – What to say?
The management of chronic pain is one of the most widespread and difficult challenges facing health care professionals. Most sufferers believe there is a physical cause for their problem even though sometimes the cause isn’t found. They tend to regard any psychological or spiritual approach with scepticism. Actually, it is probably true that such practices … Continue reading Chronic pain – Why be optimistic?
Going through a distressing crisis at the moment? People offer various kinds of psychological and spiritual guidance, counselling, or therapy for personal issues and problems. All of these people will have a limited number of tools in their box. Some may even do more harm than good if your difficulties don’t match their approach. Here … Continue reading Distressing crisis – Where to get help?
If you have heard of the personal benefits of the spiritual practice of prayer, you may be curious about how to start to pray in private. Most major religions involve prayer. We can pray out loud or silently. One way is to follow material already written. We can read or remember it. I use the … Continue reading Pray – How to start?
Do you ever find yourself wondering “Is this all there is? This home? This partner? This job? Shouldn’t things be better?” The popularity of the song ‘I can’t get no satisfaction’ by the Rolling Stones suggests that a certain element of impatience with life, even futility and disillusionment, is not uncommon. “I can’t get no … Continue reading Satisfaction – How to find and keep it?
All types of child abuse often have a devastating emotional component that does long-term psychological damage. This is especially the case if the perpetrator was a person whom the child should have been able to trust. The National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC) offers excellent guidance for all those adults who as children … Continue reading Child abuse – Why is healing possible?
Health education points out the dangers of over-indulgence in eating and drinking and sitting around. You may take the view that if you really like doing something, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. Or you may think you should moderate your guilty pleasures when they negatively affect others. Then again you may think you ought … Continue reading Guilty feelings – Mistaken or helpful?
Do you ever take some one for granted? They will do what you want – so no worries. You may feel okay about this but there may be signs of discontent from the other person – whether this is your spouse or child at home or colleague or subordinate at work. You suspect they may … Continue reading Manipulate – Do you unwittingly do this?
The United States Bureau of the Census says the fastest-growing household type since the 1980s has been the single person. The same is true in some other countries like the UK and Japan. A report says that sixty percent of people living in Stockholm live alone. It raises the question of whether it is better … Continue reading Alone or with a partner – which is better?
When things don’t work out for you, do you scream with frustration or stamp your foot? Or perhaps you roar out loud like I did recently. The football team I support were losing in a match against a far inferior side. Feeling really vexed, and for no good reason, I yelled at the referee to … Continue reading Frustration – How to prevent it?