Being pretentious can be due to seeking social acceptance, status or admiration. But it hinders authentic spiritual living. Don’t you just smile when you see someone with a ludicrous beard, use unnecessarily long words, speak with a very posh accent or wear very uncomfortable way-out clothes trying to look trendy? Name-dropping is an another example … Continue reading Pretentious people – why do we smile at them?
Seeing yourself as others see you can be disquieting. Your friends and relatives, who know you reasonably well, sometimes react badly when you have a negative impact on them. Like when, without realising it, you happen to act in a self-centered way. Taking more than one’s share of food and drink, telling someone else’s story … Continue reading Self-Centered Behaviour – Can I Change?
Do you feel lower in status or ability than others? Perhaps you find yourself engaging in self-disparaging self-talk from time to time. ‘I can’t do this as well as them’; ‘I fall behind because I’m basically too slow’; ‘They look down on me because I’m not good enough’. Here we have a sense of inferiority … Continue reading Inferiority – How to heal this feeling?
On an off day, Stuart would privately think that life had little to offer him and he even sometimes felt that all he was doing was going through the motions of living. Money was tight, and in a time of recession there were poor prospects of job advancement. Although working as an estate agent, he … Continue reading Despair – How to conjure up hope?
Some people are more comfortable providing help to others than they are receiving it for themselves. Perhaps your first instinct is to decline some help? It may be you suffer from low self-esteem because you judge yourself as undeserving of any nice things. Not everyone likes to be in the limelight. But do you feel … Continue reading Low self-esteem – Due to unfair self-judgment?
There’s a lot about life I rather dislike e.g. crime, bad parenting, shoddy goods in the shops, bad-tempered colleagues, dishonest politicians, and the list goes on and on. I bet at some point we all have wanted to blame misfortune, fate, or life itself for not giving us what we think we need. Feeling disgruntled … Continue reading I hate life – How can I feel better?
We have private thoughts at the back of the mind all the time. Often these are unnoticed yet they have a profound affect on our feelings. Cognitive therapy shows that negative and fear-laden laden thoughts add to depression and anxiety. The trouble with this approach is that often our inner thoughts are so well hidden … Continue reading Say to yourself something different.
So there might be some questions that don’t seem to get the answer you want. Why aren’t you giving me better stuff? Why don’t you give me what I want? Why aren’t you making my life easier? But how is this helping you grow? Find out more by watching this eye catching and attractive short … Continue reading Are you asking the right questions?
I decided to write about the topic of putting things off. Yes, you’ve guessed right – I couldn’t get started, and kept delaying until the deadline almost passed me by. Of course I blamed this on ‘writers’ block’. Then I remembered what Bill Watterson wrote: “You can’t just turn on creativity like a faucet. You … Continue reading Putting things off – Why do I do it?
By Stephen Russell-Lacy. I suppose it takes one to know one, but I admit giving my money away does not come easy to me. It never seems to occur to me to buy an unplanned gift for someone to mark a special occasion. Some of us are a bit stingy and penny-pinching whereas others seem … Continue reading Generous — How can I be more like this?