A Buddhist makes the claim that the self does not exist. In Sanskrit this is called anâtman. In other words my notion of I or myself is an illusion. When people first hear this, they are astonished. How can anyone deny they exist? Don’t we have our own thoughts and feelings? Don’t we act in … Continue reading Buddhist idea of no self – True or not?
People often equate humility with submissiveness, low self-esteem and low confidence. Not qualities suited to say being a leader or entertainer. However, Jim Kong Kim (President of the World Bank) is a leader who recognises the value of humility. He says it allows him to ask for coaching of new personal skills and request feedback … Continue reading Humility – Where’s the good in it?
“All the gold which is under or upon the earth is not enough to give in exchange for virtue.” (Plato, philosopher) The idea of virtue can feel a little scary. Surely no-one can be such a worthy human being as to do no wrong, show courage at all times, and be full of generosity and … Continue reading Virtue – Is it achievable?
The original 12 steps recovery programme is still used by AA (Alcoholics Anonymous). Many alcoholics have a hard time admitting that they can’t control their alcohol use. If they believe that they are unable to stop on their own, AA say the recovery process can begin. There is a big idea they promote. Most of … Continue reading 12 Steps recovery – What higher power?
“May you live in interesting times” is purported to be a traditional Chinese curse. While seemingly a blessing, the expression is always used ironically, with the clear implication that ‘uninteresting times’, of peace and tranquillity, are more life-enhancing than ‘interesting’ ones, which from historical perspective usually include disorder and conflict. It is more of an … Continue reading Turbulent times around us
How keen are you to get up in the morning and follow your ordinary day? Have you the enthusiasm needed to do what is fulfilling and good? “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm”. (Ralph Waldo Emerson, philosopher) With inspiration, and the enthusiasm that goes along with it, we have energy for living life to … Continue reading Enthusiasm – How to find it?
Do you ever take some one for granted? They will do what you want – so no worries. You may feel okay about this but there may be signs of discontent from the other person – whether this is your spouse or child at home or colleague or subordinate at work. You suspect they may … Continue reading Manipulate – Do you unwittingly do this?
The United States Bureau of the Census says the fastest-growing household type since the 1980s has been the single person. The same is true in some other countries like the UK and Japan. A report says that sixty percent of people living in Stockholm live alone. It raises the question of whether it is better … Continue reading Alone or with a partner – which is better?
Are you in any danger of falling into a trap? There is a risk that commonly held fallacies that exist beneath the surface of the mass media will trap our minds. Could any worldly illusions trap and bind you into an unhealthy state of mind? One from which you might wish to escape? The … Continue reading Trap of contemporary values?
When things don’t work out for you, do you scream with frustration or stamp your foot? Or perhaps you roar out loud like I did recently. The football team I support were losing in a match against a far inferior side. Feeling really vexed, and for no good reason, I yelled at the referee to … Continue reading Frustration – How to prevent it?